Two things to do...

I don’t know about you, but I am getting pretty worn down lately.  We’ve all been dealing with the pandemic for what feels like forever.  We’re in the midst of a really weird holiday season in which we love our dearest ones by staying away from them.  And there are moments when no amount of lights or tinsel, no fancy packaging or special foods can make things seem better.

 

What to do?  Two things, and one will probably make the other easier.

 

The first thing to do is to take care of the folks around us.  Even if we live alone and we are staying by ourselves to protect everyone from the spread of this stupid disease, we can still do some things to take care of other people.  Maybe Zoom isn’t as fabulous as actually seeing our friends face to face, but we can still offer a word of encouragement or a smile.  We can drop a note in the mail, make a phone call, send an email with a funny picture or nice sentiment.  Heck, we can do good things for people we don’t even know—make a donation or two or three.  If we live with other people, it’s even easier.  Give some hugs.  Take an extra turn doing the dishes.  Watch that movie that is the other person’s favorite.

 

Doing nice things for others makes us feel good.  Science says so.  (So if you are looking for a fitness connection, here it is:  fitness is what helps us feel good.)

 

The second thing to do is to take care of ourselves.  I have a deep-seated irritation with self-care lists.  They often involve rampant consumerism, symptom-treating, or both.  The kind of self-care I’m talking about here is the kind you would do for someone you love, which is why doing the first thing might make this one easier.  It’s practice.

 

For example, when we take care of our kids, we don’t always decide that what they need is a bunch of candy and a trip to the toy store (the child-friendly equivalent of a glass of wine and some retail therapy).  Sometimes we know that they really need to unplug from the screens and run around outside, or to eat a real meal that isn’t shaped like dinosaurs or bugs or goldfish.  Maybe they need to talk about their frustration with doing school remotely, or they need a good night of sleep, or a hug.  It can be hard to step outside of ourselves enough to figure out what it is we actually need to take care of ourselves; noticing what the people around us need might make it easier.

 

And it may seem obvious, but self-care doesn’t always feel great.  That kid who really needs a nap may kick and scream about taking it.  Getting the fractious kid outside for some quality time with the bike or scooter or soccer ball might feel like moving the Himalayas, complete with peeved yetis.  We might prefer to zone out over a drink and some impulse shopping, but we can eat our veggies and drink our water and get a little exercise instead.

 

So:  go do something real and nice for somebody and then for your own dear self.