Yes, I know I just wrote
the other day about how I don’t like resolutions. It would be slightly more accurate to say
that I don’t like BAD resolutions. I
believe in goals.
Different kinds of goals
work for different people. It is always
useful to experiment to figure out what kind works best in the current
situation. That said, good goals share
some similar characteristics. Because it
is more fun, I will illustrate with examples of bad goals.
Bad Goal #1:
I am going to get fit. There is nothing wrong with this as a
sentiment; as a goal, it leaves a lot to be desired. What do we mean by fit? How will we know when we have achieved
it? This goal is way too vague.
Bad Goal #2:
I am going to lose 100 pounds by June. This one is, at least, more
specific. The problem is that it’s also
unrealistic. Weight loss goals, in
general, should allow for about a pound a week to be healthy and sustainable. A goal of losing a reasonable amount of
weight in a reasonable timeframe would be a good goal, say 20 to 25 pounds by
June. Interim goals could help keep this
goal on track: I am going to lose 4
pounds this month.
Bad Goal #3:
I am going to go to the gym for three hours every day. For someone
just now getting off the couch, this kind of goal is crazy talk, unless a lot
of those gym hours are spent hanging out in the hot tub. We want to start with goals we can actually achieve,
like going to that class we really like at the gym every week and building from
there. Most of us, even fresh off the
couch, can manage 30 minutes of walking over the course of most days.
Bad Goal #4:
I am never eating cake again. This goal just makes cake all that more appealing. We don’t want to live life as if we are constantly
being punished. A better version of this
goal would be to decide that cake is only for special occasions, maybe once a
month, and only if it is really good cake.
By now, it should be
noticeable that the best goals have both some specificity and some wiggle
room. We need to know what we want, what
is possible, and some of what we need to get where we are going (the rest will
emerge on the way). For someone just
getting started on a fitness journey, a good goal might be something like this:
Pretty Good Goal:
I want to lose 20 pounds by June.
To do this, I am going to exercise most days a week for 30 minutes and I
am going to track my calorie intake. I
will check in with my progress at the end of each month and make adjustments as
needed to keep myself on track.
That pretty good goal
could still use some refinements, of course.
We might want to pay attention to what kind of exercise we are getting,
what foods we are choosing, and how things change as we get used to moving more
and eating less. It’s a lot more complicated
than just declaring that we’re going to lose 100 pounds by June, but we’re a
lot more likely to have success.