Today’s declaration of independence is that we are independent of stupid opinions. This is similar to what we talked about yesterday, but perhaps a little more personal.
A whole lot of people seem to think they are entitled to have opinions about what we do. We can’t control what goes on in their heads. Usually we have enough to do dealing with what’s in our own heads. But, there those folks are, spouting off about how we should or shouldn’t do whatever it is we’ve decided to do.
When those folks are motivated by our “own good,” it can be hard to blow them off. But until they live in our skin, they really don’t get a vote. Our loved ones love us. They worry when we change, even when we start changing for the better. Sometimes they do have skills or experiences we don’t have, but that doesn’t mean that what they know is right for us. We need to find our own paths. With people who are motivated by love of us, our technique is this: Thanks for your input. I’ll consider what you say.
(Some people are not even a little bit motivated by our best interest. They want to control us or keep us small or weak or unhealthy for their own reasons. When we get up the courage to be our fabulous selves, they get mad and manipulative. If thanking them for their input doesn’t do the trick, it is all right to choose not to deal with them at all. We are not put here to be abused by other people. Please do whatever is necessary to get out of unsafe circumstances. Really.)
Working out is hard enough. We don’t need to add emotional workouts on top.
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