I’ve been doing more
writing in my non-work time, which means that I’ve been talking with other
people who write. The obstacles to
writing are often the same as the ones people face with working out. Possibly the biggest one is what people often
call time management.
I’m not sure I believe in
time management. I mean, sure, there are
more and less efficient ways to do tasks.
Usually, though, it’s not that we’re inefficient or that some optimal
method is going to save us all that much time.
It’s usually that we have to manage some kind of emotion that is keeping
us from starting in the first place.
Often that emotion is fear. We are afraid that we can’t handle whatever
it is we are trying to do: lose weight,
get strong, lower our cholesterol, avoid knee surgery. We might fail. We might also succeed, which would mean that
we are actually strong and powerful and knowing that might change other things
in our lives. We might be afraid that we’ll
get hurt. We can deal with fear in lots
of ways: take a friend, take a deep
breath, offer ourselves bribes…
Sometimes the emotion is
dislike. I happen to like a lot of kinds
of working out, but if I ended up signed up for a daily golf class or regular
softball, I would be less than excited.
Ditto marathon training. I’m also
probably not going to excel at figure skating or gymnastics, although I could
have fun failing at it. The first thing
to try is something else. There are so
many ways to work out. Almost everyone
can find one that they don’t hate. And
if that doesn’t work, we can choose whatever is done fastest, which probably
means some kind of interval circuit where we can get in and get done in about
half an hour.
Sometimes the feeling is
unworthiness. One way to tell that this
one is working is that we procrastinate by doing all kinds of other good and
responsible things for other people, like laundry and cooking and cleaning and
planning the perfect theme birthday party and curating the optimal playlist for
the drive to and from work or school so that everyone arrives refreshed and
energized. Listen closely: we deserve to be healthy and happy. Also:
we are not the only ones who can wash/cook/clean/plan/curate and those
around us had better practice in case we don’t manage to work out this whole
healthy living and we suddenly drop dead next week. Let me repeat: we deserve to be healthy and happy.
We are strong enough to
start. Once we start, we will get even
stronger. We can do this.