Self-knowledge
helps. I know, for example, that if I
really want to get something done, I need to do it first thing or suddenly the
whole day will be gone, spent in little, less-important tasks. I know that my ability to resist less-healthy
food goes down over the course of the day; if I’m going to allow myself a
treat, I had better save it for later in the day or suddenly one treat might
become several.
Easily said. But where does the self-knowledge come
from? Paying attention. We need to go a little Harriet the Spy on
ourselves, observe our behavior. Keeping
track of what we see can help to sort out what was a one-time thing and what
turns out to be a pattern.
We may turn out to be
people with an unexpected love of dancing, or folks who will walk for hours if
there are shop windows to check out, but whose feet ache the second step into
the forest. We can’t know until we
look. And when we know who we are, we
can figure out who we want to be.